Being Femm

I have been speaking to a number of women about what it is to be female.

I played hostess to 4 girls (all genetic females) and we discussed the issue what makes a women a women. Yes ok certain female genitalia, physical characteristics and of mind set but what about

Caster Semenya, what about me I am not by any stretch of the imagination manly but neither am I womenly where does this leave me?

Is there a third way?

Should there be a third way?

The girls and let me introduce them to you:

Zoe, Sarah, Amy and Kee are all dear friends and are very honest and open. So we started to explore the list we came up with is as follows:

We avoided the physical as I would challenge any women to a test of women hood. Make up, Fashion, chatting about guys, walking etc. So we looked at the mind set and we found these key points were vital to a female mind set

1. Soft or softer outlook

2. Love needing to feel in love

3. Gentle perhaps submissive

4. Materialistic

5. Chatty / friendships valued

6. Need to be protected

We then discussed sex and how a women orgasms we decided to outline what an orgasm is not from the physical element but how it feels.

From the Physical perspective (thanks to Female Orgasm)

What is an orgasm? In women, the labia, clitoris, vagina, and pelvic organs enlarge in very much the same way as the aroused penis enlarges. Sometimes there is a plateau of excitement which is held for several minutes before you are about to orgasm. Orgasm is the point at which all the tension is suddenly released in a series of involuntary and pleasurable muscular contractions that may be felt in the vagina and/or uterus.

When a woman climaxes, regardless of which area of her body is stimulated, her body physically reacts in the same way. During an orgasm, she feels:

• stimulation in her clitoris


• her heart rate, blood pressure, and breathing increase


• tension builds within her pelvis


• muscles contract throughout her body, especially in the vagina, uterus, rectum, and pelvic floor


• tension is released upon orgasm

From the mental perspective

Women are easily or at least easier then men to embarrass they need to feel secure to orgasm (yes there are always exceptions to any rule) They need to be free to let themselves go and a women can only do this when she is totally comfortable with the man / partner she is having sex with.

Another interesting point raised was does a women feel a man ejaculate inside her

Again thanks to Female Orgasm for the info below

What I can always feel when a man gets close is his penis swelling and hardening and then twitching and pulsating as he ejaculates. What I usually don't feel is the semen shooting into me. (Of course, when he's wearing a condom, I definitely don't feel the semen - at least I hope I don't - though I still feel the other signs of ejaculation.)

From what I've heard, many women never feel the semen shooting into them. At most, they feel an increase in warmth and wetness. (It's tough to feel because it's already pretty wet down there anyway.) A few women say they feel it all the time. Others, like myself, sometimes feel the actual ejaculate, but not most of the time.

From my perspective I feel a man swell and harden and then the twitch as he cum in my asspussy (I prefer to call it that so there) I can feel him cum and I adore this feeling. I also love the feeling of the cum running down the inside of my thigh I guess this makes me feel female.

We then chatted about the ever popular spit or swallow issue.

My feeling is that a man needs to know he owns you fully and by swallowing you allow yourself to submit totally to his whim and this shows that you are also scented by him. Animals pee to scent their territory I am sure that deep down hidden somewhere is a mans need for his sperm to be swallowed so it somehow feeds his desire to own his women. I am convinced this is the case even for the most civilized and sophisticated man.

More to follow....

Submissive Man or Submissive Women or Submissive Third

No matter what i say or do no matter how femm I make myself I am a man who longs to be a women or am I.

I have been reading the blog http://femdomalt.blogspot.com/ and I am a little confused is a sub man still a man, a sub women is still a women and I want to be more I want to me female have a divine body and breasts and yet keep my sissy clit - I do not want it to be big or even hard but to keep it there. 

I feel so strange so sure that this is right for me I was sent this picture by my Sister - she said she had been looking at T girls researching and trying to understand more and she said that she found two images she felt were stunning - I agree somehow she is more women more sexy more every thing. These girls are cute sexy and soo femm. 

So pert and femm and thin and what a yummy 'o' face - I love the fact she is playing with her sissy clit and her other hand is playing with her ass pussy. 

Perfection what an amazing t girl.

Is it being a women that drives me or being one of these women that drives me. Or can it be both?

Does anyone know? 

If I could choose to be one of these girls or one of those girls above who would I choose to be?

Would I choose Natalie Portman or Victoria over the two T girls - yes ofcourse I would as would you but I would want to be Victoria with a little something extra between my legs. 

Being femm

Being Femm - what does this mean. I think as I have pointed out in other posts for Tgirls it can mean many things for me it is a combination of looking and feeling femm, dressing, and acting like a women but in all aspects of life. 

I have listed some simple things that I do that really do help me feel like a women.

In a rather un-female way I will make a list:

1. I have marked in my diary when I have my period and I do so every month and I go through all the roles I need to play out to make it real I even change the style of my knickers to allow for liners. 

2. I do all my work both personal and work related like a girl I avoid acting / responding like a man at all.

3. I have baths more than showers and use female grooming products

4. I never stand to pee not even when I am out in male attire.

5. I buy female magazines and watch female films and read female books

6. I eat like a girl and exercise like a girl 

7. I have overly female interiors to my home and I am interested in female Tv programmes

8. I refer to my penis as a male clit or sissy clit my bottom as my asspussy or sissy pussy and my testicles as my sissy balls

9. I never wank I always use my male clit like a women would and use my asspussy

10. I try to be submissive at all times

It is also a state of mind try to become the girl you want and be proud of who she is even if she is a bitch. I wanted to be a very nice girl next door but it turns out Tabby is a little snooty and likes to think she is upper class I know this sounds a little mad but it is vital the girl in you grows into whom she should be and not whom your subconscious male self wants her to be. 

A good rule of thumb apparently is to cast your mind back and remember a girl that excited you / turned you on but you did not like that is a good starting place I am told.